Have you cuffed or been cuffed for “Cuffin Season” yet? As we all know Cuffin Season ends on November 1st and as we enter the last few days of October we start to enter crunch time for that last minute season pick. For those that are not familiar “Cuffin Season” it is the time when many people in the Midwest and on the east coast find someone to be with during the winter season. The mindset is to have someone that you can “cuddle” with on those cold nights. Many people that end up in a relationship during this season end up single soon as the weather turns warm. I have viewed many websites that have discussed what “Cuffin Season” is but none of them actually went to the extent to explain how the “Draft” works. I recently sat down with one of my close friends R.O.B (@therealR_O_B) and I asked the question: “how do some guys pick that girl to be with during
cuffin season “?
For the first time ever I received a very true answer that I wanted to share with you all.
During the choosing process there are always at least two main choices to remember girl A and girl B. Girl A is the one that cooks, has no drama, owns her own house or car, has a degree or is in school, has goals, and has a good job. Girl A is the one that all the rap/love songs describe how a real woman should be (the ones that they truly want). Girl B doesn’t cook, always has drama, emotionally dependent, receives housing assistance, has no real goals in life, and she may not have a job.
When the choices are that obvious for most men it is still hard to decide. The major deciding factor can come down to the finances. He may have asked Girl A to buy him something but at the time she couldn’t because she had to take care of her responsibilities such as paying her rent/mortgage. He asks Girl B for the same item and she purchases it because she has the disposable income because her rent is only $20. The man will put up with all the drama and nagging with Girl B because she will spoil him because she doesn’t have any real financial responsibilities. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t really like Girl A. He can be with Girl B and still want Girl A. If Girl A was to call and say that she purchased the item he would leave Girl B for Girl A and never look back. If he was an adult materialistic items would not compare to the positive characteristics of a real woman.
I know that some you reading this will disagree on this analogy but if you really think about it how many times were you seeing someone and they told you that it wasn’t working and they ended up with someone that you didn’t feel even matched your characteristics by a long shot. Some may write it off based on the sexual relationship which can play a part sometimes but we question it when they call to sleep with you again. Now to be fair there is nothing wrong with someone that is getting house assistance. The only problem is when you are not using it wisely. If you rent is only $20 you should be saving any extra that you make to better yourself. If you are using the extra income that you have to go out and party or buy designer clothing then that is when it becomes a problem. However that can make someone else more appealing for some that are looking for a financial gain.
The saying is true:
People come into your life fora Reason a Season or a Lifetime.
When you know which one it is,you will know what to do for that person.When someone is in your life for a REASON,it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.They have come to assist you through a difficulty,to provide you with guidance and support,to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.They may seem like a godsend and they are.They are there for the reason you need them to be.Then,without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.What we must realize is that our need has been met,our desire fulfilled, their work is done.The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.They may teach you something you have never done.They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.Believe it, it is real.But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.Your job is to accept the lesson,love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.